BERFDAYS!!! (Why I Love Them and How I Roll Mine)

IT ARE MY BIRTHDAY.

Listen. I want you to know something. If you’ve ever wondered what the most beautiful sounding date is, it is “May 7th”. And I’m not just saying that because it’s my birthday. (Okay, I’m probably saying that in large part because it’s my birthday.) I could just be super lucky to have a birthday on the prettiest sounding date out of the entire year. Because May is such a lovely name for a month, it’s simple, it’s sweet, it’s when pretty things are happening outside. And then 7 is a prime number, and it’s a lucky number, and if you say “May 7th” and try not to think of it as a day but rather just a pretty word, it has a nice sound to it. 🙂

OKAY OKAY OKAY so today is my birthday and it started off by going to yoga and having everyone in class sing to me right before final breathing. 🙂 This happened last year, too, purely by accident! The teacher was like, “Is it anyone’s birthday today?” and I raised my hand and she was like, “Awesome! Well, we’re going to sing to you in Triangle.” So this is the second year in a row I’ve been sung to at yoga on my birthday and I think I really like the tradition, because both times I didn’t expect it. (Apparently this time, the lady working the desk snuck in at some point during class and told the teacher it was my birthday, or he would have had everyone sing during Triangle again.)

And then I went to Potager with Green and Freya and if you live in the Arlington area and you have never been to Potager (You say it like this: “Pot-uh-JAY” with a soft “J” sound) YOU SHOULD GO because it is the most delicious and “hummy” food in town. On the wrappers for Lara bars, they describe the snack as a “hum food”, or a food made of all natural stuff so that when you eat it, it feels like everything inside of you is humming. I really like that, and I feel that everything served at Potager is “hum food”. 🙂

No exception today, everything was DELICIOUS and I wish I could just live there and spend my whole life eating amazing, yummy, hummy food!!

I want to talk to you a little bit about “the birthday” in general. For the most part, I’m not one to celebrate holidays because I find them somewhat stressful. You have to get something for everyone you know or you have to do this or plan this or remember this only to have it happen again in a month or so. I like the concept of holidays, I like the concept of celebration, I just don’t love the expectations and stress that comes from them, especially if you’re someone like me who has a tough time remembering day to day stuff as it is. Dropping out the holidays just makes it easier on me, and I’m okay with anything that makes life easier for me. 🙂

The BIRTHDAY, however, is something different. I love my birthday, and I love other people’s birthdays, too. Because I think it’s very nice to have one day out of the whole year where you genuinely let yourself do anything you want, and be OKAY with doing the anything that you want to do. Want to spend the entire day lounging around in bed? OKAY. Do it and enjoy it. 🙂 Want to spend the entire day hanging out with friends? OKAY. Do it and enjoy it!

I used to find some stress from my birthday, too, because I always wanted to try and have this elaborate party and invite everyone I knew in the whole world and we would all hang out and do a series of awesome activities and it would be awesome. Which, I will admit, still sounds awesome! However, what ended up happening is that all of the people I loved wanted to do something different with me to celebrate, at different times, and by the end of trying to figure out how to make everyone else happy on my special day, I was tired and miserable and ready for it to be over.

So now, I plan my birthdays by leaving them completely planless. There is no party, there is no expectation of friends to shower me with gifts (though if that’s how they roll, they are more than welcome to!), there’s no special dinner, there’s no special movie, there’s no special activity…the whole day is just open. Open to me to explore what I most want to do in the moment of that day.

Today, it’s looking like I might want to spend the rest of the day either reading or napping. I feel like it would be silly not to hoop on my birthday, but I’m not going to beat myself up about it if I don’t. Burgers sound delicious, too. I might get a burger. We’ll see!

The best gift I can give to myself for my birthday is the gift of a stress-free day. And if you have a birthday coming up, I suggest you try this yourself! Let the day happen. And just keep reminding yourself, “This is my day to feel special.” Because EVERYONE deserves at least one day per year of guilt-free specialness.

And THANK YOU SO MUCH to everyone who has wished me Happy Birthday, either in person, by text, by phone call, or by Facebook. I can’t tell you how loved I felt when I loaded up my Facebook page this morning and saw all those well-wishes. I am truly, truly grateful for every single one of them, and the people that left them.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY! And if it’s not your birthday today, MERRY UN-BIRTHDAY!